I believe this kinda touches on the bonding topic.Noel just wants to be close and secure either with me or with her daddy. Babies thrive to being touched. There is research that says that these are a few of the benefits of babywearing; babies cry less, its good for the babies mental,emotional, and physical devleopment, and it helps mothers whom may be depressed. I personally believe in babywearing just because it is easier on me the mother. (Of course I wouldnt do it if it didnt benefit my LO also!) I can do all of my house chores while carrying Noel around with me. Plus she is able to get out of the normal routine of her usal toys and gets the enjoy the comfort of being with me and gets to experience the sights and sounds all around us. She usually gets danced around and sings with me also. There are a ton of wraps on the market and of course I want the newest and coolest but I have settled for a normal old carrier that is in the picture above and I did get the infintino sash that Im so very excited about!!!!! As much as a like the stroller if you think about it its alot less trouble just to put her in her carrier then put her in her stroller and have to try to fit her inbetween aisles when shopping. Plus I like her close to me. Another plus, when there are a million people around its nice to use so she doesnt get mixed up in the hustle and bussle of things and people, plus I dont like sharing much.
We started baby Noel off in a bassinet next to our bed.... she never slept through the night and I didnt either while she was asleep because I couldnt see her..... her next place of sleeping was in her swing.... she hated that.... thus she ended up bed sharing with us... for the first couple months of this she was put in her boppy pillow in between us because of her acid reflux. She loved this! Until recently where she has decided that she wants to sleep on her back, not propped up. So we have a inbed cosleeper bed she sleeps in until she gets hungry at around 4am. Then she comes out of that and sleeps snuggled next to me nursing as she pleases through the rest of the morning. The constant stimulant of nursing through the night actually helps keep my milk supply up. And having her close where she can just nurse as she pleases keeps me well rested. Alot of things I have seen and heard actually even from family members are; "Your never going to get her out of your bed." "Just put her in her crib or she will be spoiled." "Thats very dangerous what if you smother her." Ughhhh so annoying... I dont personally feel like I need to defend what we decide to do as parents but I will tell you my stance and my opinion. My husband and I follow the bedsharing rules Ive seen. We are very aware of the pillows and blanket on our bed and where she is all through the night. We are never so out of it that it may harm her. And we use the in bed cosleeper for the majority of the night just as a extra precaution. The first statement about your never going to get her out of your bed.... I plan on when she gets to a good age without the worry of acid reflux and such that she will get upgraded to moving out of our bed however, until that time right next to me she will stay close to me. There has been a few times she has spit up in the middle of the night and started coughing and my husband and I were right there to help her. That probably would have never happened had she been in the other room in her crib. That scares the crap out of me. The thought of just throwing in her crib involves the Cry it out method eventually and well we already know that I feel about that one. One of the things I am most afraid of is SIDS. Ugh I have read alot of research that says that by cosleeping SIDS rates go down. Thus cosleep we shall. Also, I dont like sleeping alone. My husband doesnt like sleeping alone. Heck our dog doesnt even like sleeping alone. Why would I think my little one would like sleeping alone? Ehh nah!
Boundary Building:
This is also classified as gentle parenting. This is a perfect example of gentle I found of which I do, "Parents might decide to put breakables out of reach rather than trying to teach their toddler not to touch them because they understand it would be unrealistic to expect the baby to resist touching enticing objects. Attachment parents generally would not use corporal punishment but rather provide guidance, role modeling, rewards for good behavior, and gentle punishments such as timeouts or loss of privileges, always keeping the child's developmental stage in mind." (Credits to this quote is: http://www.ivillage.com/what-attachment-parenting/6-a-127876) I want to say that I believe in this 95%. I was raised differently then this and I do believe that I swat here or there may be necessary. However, every child is fuel is functions differently. I basically want to raise my daughter to be afraid to disappoint us as parents. That is how I feel I was raised. I was raised to think about things before I did them and the consequences that would come along if I were to not follow along with what was the rules. I believe that is the way children should be raised. Holding on to that thought I believe that follows inline with the thought of providing guidance. If little Noel was to do something wrong I am not going to go off the handle and raise my voice and yell at her. I am going to get down on her level and explain to her what she did and wrong and punish accordingly. Most likely punishing will go along the lines of a time out or taking away things for a amount of time before I would ultimatly swat her on the hiney. It says in the Bible, Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. This is what we believe the Bible says about disciplining your child. I also find it as a good point to point out that role modeling is a high one on my standards. I want people in my daughters life that are going to be good role models that display acceptable behaviors. For example, I dont believe that smoking is a acceptable behavior. Therefore, I am not going to greatly limit taking my daughter to be around people that smoke.
Attachment parenting is mostly about following your instincts. That is what we are doing and I feel by doing this will benefit our sweet daughter. This is my/our stance on my/our parenting style at this point. You dont have to agree or even like it but, that is our stance on raising our daughter. I hope if anything my opinion answered any question your may have at what we are choosing to do. Thanks! <3 Kim
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